How can I have a relationship when my mother is around all the time?

if you're in college I think it's time you realized your mom doesn't get a say in your life. if she finds out, she finds out. I'm not saying run and tell her but you can't live in fear for the rest of your life! She probably suspects and took college with you partly because she wanted to keep an eye on you. mothers suspect more than you think, mine did. before i even knew! I understand when you live with your mom, wanting to keep it a secret, but once you are living as an adult it's time to stop being scared of what mommy says